Our deepest and most severe grief feels like we are losing our mind, that a psychotic break is inevitable; or, that it may kill us, the psychological pain being so unbearable that we will certainly die. This is not simply an emotional event, rather we are viscerally and kinesthetically experiencing our oneness and individuality, our sense of self; and now, because of the life altering event we are grieving our self feels so radically different from which we are accustomed. Momentarily our familiar psychological self has been destroyed, and for all intents and purposes it has died. In addition to the common emotions like sadness and loss, we experience ourselves as having been devastated, perhaps shattered or annihilated. And because of the nature of the experience one does not feel one can control it, which raises one’s fear, increasing one’s suffering. However, if we do not let it frighten us into suppressing the pain, we find that with expression it eases and eventually fades, and the feeling of being ourselves again returns. As this occurs we will find that most likely we are affectively and energetically fatigued, and in need of rest or some activity that restores us to our usual state of mind, or at least to one of lessened grief.